There are times when it is important for you to stand up for yourself and stop people from hurting you. But there are also other times when it would be more appropriate to turn the other cheek and avoid an altercation altogether. In my story, Boston’s Quest, Jason and his guardian, Bruce, disagree over the importance of video gaming. This disagreement leads to Jason’s moving out. In one of the last moments they have together, Bruce gives a dark view of Jason’s choice. Instead of taking offence with Bruce’s view, Jason chooses to turn the other cheek and by doing so he is able to see the most important thing–Bruce loves him:
“When will you leave?” (Bruce says)
I’m (Jason is) at a loss for words. “Soon.”
I get out of the car. He gets out on the other side, mirroring my actions. We stare at each other over the roof of the car.
“Is there anything we can do to change your mind?” (Bruce says)
I touch the car roof. “You’ve made your position on my gaming very clear.”
“Jason, it’s not healthy for you to hide inside virtual reality anytime life gets too difficult for you. I only say this because I love you.” He pauses, and it looks like he’s tearing up, but then his demeanor shifts drastically. “I can’t sit by and watch you self-destruct. It’s not right. It’s like giving a drunk as much alcohol as he wants. I wish you could understand that.”
He said he loves me. (Jason thinks)
When we choose to turn the other cheek and not to be offended or insulted, we remain in a state of mind where we can focus on the positive. In this state of mind, we are able to see what is still good in the relationship. This is an important benefit of turning the other cheek.