Two Sides of a Story

The other day while I was channel surfing during my work out on the Elliptical machine at the sports center, I shifted between two news stations. One was a local station and the other was CNN. On CNN the reporter was interviewing several people to give their view of how Sarah Palin did when she publicly endorsed Trump as a presidential candidate. The panel of people who were discussing her public endorsement had determined that she made a fool of herself and were making fun of her presentation. They showed a film clip where she stumbled through the speech as if she was unprepared. They even went as far as to say she might have been drunk on camera. My first thought was one of outrage towards Ms. Palin for being so “foolish” to do such a poor national presentation.

However, when I switched to the local news where the breaking story was about how Sarah Palin’s son was arraigned that day on charges of abuse. Suddenly I was overcome with compassion for this courageous woman who was facing such a terrible personal tribulation. If I had been in her shoes, I wouldn’t have been able to concentrate enough to prepare for a national endorsement. How could a mother who loves her son present a successful image to the world when her personal life was falling apart?

More than an Attitude

In my book, DiSemblance, Boston doesn’t define her alcoholic mother as a fool. Instead, she keeps a more compassionate attitude towards her. This attitude enables her to help her mother and then inadvertently help herself (Boston’s perspective): “Mom!” I (Boston) yell, as I open the front door to my house and rush inside. Darting throughContinue Reading

Destroys Compassion

Last week we talked about how when you call someone a fool you devalue them by increasing your sense of self-righteousness. This week I’d like to talk about how increasing your sense of self-righteousness creates an attitude towards the person which destroys the compassion/love you feel for them. How does this work? For example, let’sContinue Reading

Freak Event

Sometimes I see a pattern in someone’s life and I just want to say with all the power I can muster, “Don’t let the experiences you are having right now define your future!” Why would I say this? Because once someone passes judgment on their life based on what they have experienced, then their lifeContinue Reading

Focus Counts

What kind of judgments do you place on the trials that happen in your life? Do you call yourself foolish? Or do you give yourself the room to make mistakes? Please beware of the dangerous fact that the negative judgments you place on yourself can actually bring on more negative trials. Let me give youContinue Reading

Self-righteous Attitude

I believe when we call someone a fool, we are not only placing a negative judgment upon that person, but we are also rejecting the differences between us and them. This type of statement places us in a self-righteous attitude which seems to increase our self-worth by diminishing theirs. This goes against what Jesus ChristContinue Reading

She Didn’t

If you make a judgment that someone or something is “foolish” when something doesn’t go your way in a relationship, you can create trouble. I know someone who has a daughter that was preparing for her senior prom. This girl had planned every detail of this special event. The only problem was that one ofContinue Reading

Self-fulfilling Prophecy

Because of the principle of self-fulfilling prophecy, the judgments we make in our lives will have great power for good or evil. A self-fulfilling prophecy is a prediction that directly or indirectly causes itself to become true, by the very terms of the prophecy itself, or due to positive interaction between belief and behavior. What this means is thatContinue Reading

Thou Fool

Why would Jesus Christ warn us in the Sermon on the Mount that calling someone a fool is dangerous? “…but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire.” (St. Matthew 5:22) I believe it is because when we call someone a fool, we are placing a negative judgment upon that personContinue Reading

Seeing the Best

In this life it is so easy to get frustrated and to allow your mind to dwell on things that people have done or said. For example, let’s say that you have a roommate who sometimes doesn’t clean up after herself right away. The first couple times, you let it slide, but after a while,Continue Reading