Category Archives: Your Frequency

Two Sides of a Story

The other day while I was channel surfing during my work out on the Elliptical machine at the sports center, I shifted between two news stations. One was a local station and the other was CNN. On CNN the reporter was interviewing several people to give their view of how Sarah Palin did when she publicly endorsed Trump as a presidential candidate. The panel of people who were discussing her public endorsement had determined that she made a fool of herself and were making fun of her presentation. They showed a film clip where she stumbled through the speech as if she was unprepared. They even went as far as to say she might have been drunk on camera. My first thought was one of outrage towards Ms. Palin for being so “foolish” to do such a poor national presentation.

However, when I switched to the local news where the breaking story was about how Sarah Palin’s son was arraigned that day on charges of abuse. Suddenly I was overcome with compassion for this courageous woman who was facing such a terrible personal tribulation. If I had been in her shoes, I wouldn’t have been able to concentrate enough to prepare for a national endorsement. How could a mother who loves her son present a successful image to the world when her personal life was falling apart?

More than an Attitude

In my book, DiSemblance, Boston doesn’t define her alcoholic mother as a fool. Instead, she keeps a more compassionate attitude towards her. This attitude enables her to help her mother and then inadvertently help herself (Boston’s perspective): “Mom!” I (Boston) yell, as I open the front door to my house and rush inside. Darting throughContinue Reading

Destroys Compassion

Last week we talked about how when you call someone a fool you devalue them by increasing your sense of self-righteousness. This week I’d like to talk about how increasing your sense of self-righteousness creates an attitude towards the person which destroys the compassion/love you feel for them. How does this work? For example, let’sContinue Reading

Judgment and the Golden Rule

Jesus Christ said, “. . . For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.” (St Matthew 7:1-2) Webster’s dictionary defines measure as “an estimate of what is to be expected (as of a person or situation).” You can’t let yourContinue Reading

Great Power in Turning the Other Cheek

When you choose to turn the other cheek and remain in a positive mental state, then you have more power to shift the other person to a positive place because it has been proven scientifically that positive mental energy is 1,000 times more powerful than negative energy. Recently, my child’s boss called me because myContinue Reading

When Turning the Cheek is Hard to Do

Since we’ve already talked about why you would want to turn the other cheek, today we are going to talk about how you actually do it. Someone might say, “That’s easy, all you have to do is walk away from a volatile situation without striking back when someone hurts you.” Many times theorizing is muchContinue Reading

Compassion Changed my Heart

Compassion changed my heart. There is a woman in my church congregation with whom I have had several bad experiences. These experiences have created a negative feeling within me towards her. I struggled for a long time with these negative feelings until one Sunday when she stood up in front of the congregation and sharedContinue Reading